Last week, there was some interesting news about a group of Murang’a women who ganged up against a barmaid accusing her of stealing their husbands. These women protested and hurled abuses at this woman claiming some of their husbands had sold household items and chickens to sleep with her.
The men on the other hand defended her saying she is understanding, accommodating and neater than them. They further claimed their women were not good enough in bed, thus their escapades with this woman.
We can treat this as one of those village gossip, but it brings out something that could be happening to many marriages, but no one is talking about it. Bedroom matters are sensitive and no one wants to expose their mate’s lack of prowess in this area.
Culturally, this subject is a taboo and so often, couples don’t even discuss it. So, they end up suffering in silence and when an opportunity arises, they veer off. Culturally again, it is believed that this is something that women do for their husbands no wonder these Murang’a men could justify that the reason they went for the greener pasture was because their wives’ game was down.
As much as I would want to agree with that, it may just be that the men are also not doing their part to fulfil the equation. The men will have to treat their women well, loving them, showering them with affection, and investing on their beauty for their wives to also reciprocate the same in bed.
Didn’t King Solomon, the wisest man in the Bible remind us, “Let your fountain be blessed, and take pleasure in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful fawn – let her breasts always satisfy you; be lost in her love forever.”
For the two to remain one, they must openly and honestly talk about their sexual relations. There must be immediate and honest feedback. Remember, women, too can be equally frustrated in this area and may have nowhere to turn to because the society we live in judges them harshly. It is only through such conversations that we can realise where we are at and do something to correct the situation, if not improve on it.