Just when you thought it was safe, fun even, to receive holiday gifts, it’s time for another round-up of contenders for the crown no one wants
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Leah Kiarie and her husband had only been dating for a few months when the holiday season kicked in. Not wanting to rock the boat with an extravagant present, Leah decided to buy a nice but less expensive gift for her then boyfriend.
“He is an ardent football fun, he loves playing soccer video games, so I bought him a DVD of an upgraded version for the next year, showing that I was a cool and thoughtful girlfriend. Only awesome girlfriends buy such kind of presents for their men right?” she chuckles.
So you can imagine the horror when, late on Christmas day, they exchanged presents, and Leah opened a pack of body hair shavers, creams and deos! “Can you imagine? Needless to say, I was beyond annoyed. I burst out into tears while my boyfriend stood there mouth agape.
He probably wondered why I was too upset over a gift he had spent so much on,” she laughs at the memory. Luckily, she is not alone in her Chritmas gift fail, a bunch of other people have walked the wrapping paper road of shame right along with her. Maryanne Wandia explains how she got terrible gifts at one time. She received stiletto heels from her boyfriend.
It was a confusing moment because she is not used to wearing such high-heeled shoes and she had already hinted a shoe she had spotted. Moniece Wambua on the other hand, felt disappointed and annoyed after she hoped to be gifted with jewellery only to get a toaster. “Yes, it is useful, but not exciting.
I can’t just show it off to my friends, like hey I just got a toaster for a Christmas gift! After a while I re-gifted it to my sister,” she says. Another time, her boyfriend gifted her a trashcan for their anniversary because he noticed the old one leaked.
He is really a terrible gift giver,” she mourns. Men are mostly the culprits in taking home the worst gift giver crown. Which is why Steve Karanja would not opt to gift someone.
“I was dating this woman and on our first Christmas, I did not know what to give her, so I framed my own picture and gave it to her. She was upset and claimed I was not thoughtful and neither did I try,” he reminisces.
Well, Christmas is around the corner and whether you love gifting or not, family and friends will definitely shower you with gifts and expect you to give back as well, the twist is, some will be terrible. So what would you do if you find yourself in a situation where you receive a bad gift?
We all understand that it is the thought that counts when it comes to giving out gifts. However, what is the person thinking, when they gift you something so horrible?
It may seem inappropriate, thoughtless and ill considered. It’s important to be appreciative of what others do for us and it shouldn’t be a task as many would assume it to be as told by psychologist Sheila Wachira.
A bad gift sets off doubts as to whether the giver really knows you. The best way to act when you have a bad gift is trying as much as possible not to show and feel annoyed, although she admits that smiling and showing appreciation can be difficult if you had high expectations of what kind of gift you would receive. However, whatever it is, she advises that you should never show negative emotion in response to a gift you have just opened.
“A person may feel misunderstood after an unfitting gift. On the other hand one should understand that the gift giver probably did it in a hurry or they are not good at giving gifts,” she explains.
She says only a few people know how to gift. Most people will look for something that works. Gifting something should be a nice gesture, not a compulsory duty, and gifting is not for mean intentions, but horrible gifts come out as ignorant, especially if not well-thought-out.